How To Understand Autism and Relate With Autistic Children


If you have an autistic child, you may be feeling overwhelmed by the challenges that parenting brings. While it’s important to give your child a safe space and teach them appropriate social skills, you also need to make sure that both of you are happy and healthy as parents together. Here are some tips for understanding and relating with an autistic child:

Praise your autistic child

Praising your autistic child can be challenging. You may feel that praising them for something they did that was difficult is too much, or you may feel like it’s too easy to praise them when they do something easy. However, it is important to know that giving praise to your children will help them learn more about themselves and become better at overcoming challenges as well as being able to enjoy the little things in life.

When giving praise, make sure you are specific in what you are praising your child for. If he/she has done a great job on his/her homework assignment then let him/her know that! It is also important not only give him/her praise but also explain why the work was good so he/she can see where they went wrong if they need some help improving it next time around.

Don’t assume anything

Many people with autism have difficulty interpreting social cues and responding appropriately. This may make it seem like they are uninterested in what you are saying or doing, but that is not necessarily the case. Instead of assuming the child has no interest in something just because they don’t immediately show interest, try asking them questions about the topic at hand or allowing them to volunteer information about what they do know.

Don’t assume that an autistic child lacks knowledge simply because they don’t respond to you or appear to misunderstand something. Children with autism often struggle with nonverbal communication skills such as facial expressions and body language because these actions require complex neurological connections between different parts of their brains. Instead of assuming all interactions will be clear, give your child opportunities to explain themselves through speaking out loud or writing down their thoughts and feelings on paper if necessary (autistic individuals often prefer text rather than speaking).

Create a peaceful environment

According to the Autism Society, creating a peaceful environment can help reduce stress and improve your child’s behavior as well. This means that it is important to create a space where they can retreat when they feel overwhelmed, such as a quiet room with no distractions. It’s also important that you make sure the area is comfortable for them—you may want to consider adding sensory toys, music or other items that will help soothe their anxiety and calm down after an episode.

If you’re looking for ways to create this safe space at home, here are some suggestions:

  • Find an area in your house where there aren’t any loud noises or people around (like the basement or garage).
  • Cover windows with thick curtains if necessary (this will ensure privacy).
  • Use soft rugs on floors instead of hardwood or tile surfaces so footsteps don’t make too much noise when walking around inside your house (if possible).

Learn about autism

Autism is a neurological disorder that is characterized by difficulties in communication and social interaction.

Autism spectrum disorders (ASDs) are a group of developmental disabilities that can cause significant social, communication, behavioral, and learning challenges. These challenges are present from early childhood, even if they don’t always become apparent until later. Many people with ASDs also have intellectual disabilities or other health issues.

Children with autism may seem to develop normally during their first year of life but then become withdrawn or show signs of delayed development over the next several months. In some cases, symptoms may not be noticeable until later childhood or even adulthood—although some level of autism-like traits often become evident during infancy.*

The severity of symptoms varies widely among those affected by autistic disorders.* Some individuals who receive this diagnosis have mild symptoms while others need lifelong support to manage their medical needs due to severe impairments.*

Be consistent in your routines

  • It is important to be consistent in your routines.
  • Routines can help kids feel safe and secure.
  • Routines can help kids feel like they are in control of their environment.
  • Routines can help kids feel like they are part of a group or family, which can boost self-confidence and feeling of belonging.

Celebrate handling surprises well

In a world where most people don’t handle surprises well, you can celebrate and appreciate your child for being able to cope with unexpected events. This can be an opportunity for you to teach him or her that it is possible to handle surprises well and that there are benefits of being able to do so.

I have learned from personal experience how helpful it is when my son gets something he did not expect. When I give him the surprise of our new dog, or when I take him out for a picnic on his birthday after saying he had to stay home all day because homework was due tomorrow (and then actually giving him the option of staying home), he is so happy! He smiles and laughs and jumps around in delight! He feels good about himself because he was able to deal with the surprise well.

When your child handles a situation with ease and grace (like when she calmly explains why she cannot come along on vacation), tell her how proud you are of her! If possible, give them some sort of reward or praise such as extra TV time or special dessert at dinner that night—whatever works best for them!

Remember that it’s an advantage to be autistic

It may seem like a disadvantage to be autistic, but there are advantages to being on the spectrum. For example, autistic people can have a unique perspective on the world that neurotypical people don’t have. They aren’t as easily distracted by their surroundings and they can focus for longer periods of time than most people.

Additionally, many autistic people have strengths in specific areas such as math and science that neurotypical people don’t normally have. It is important to remember these strengths when interacting with other autistic people so you can help them find jobs where they can use their special skills.

Remembering these things will help you relate with your child who may be struggling with autism at home or school and help them learn how to interact with neurotypical children without feeling left out or excluded from social situations due to their condition

Practice self-discovery with autistic children

By practicing self-discovery, you can help your child discover his or her own interests and strengths. This will help your child become more confident in his or her abilities, which is an important part of being a healthy and happy person. Self-discovery also helps you better understand the needs of your autistic child so that you may better support them as they grow up.

A good way to start practicing self-discovery with autistic children is by asking them about their interests and what would make them happy. If a child responds by saying things like “I don’t know” or “I don’t care” when asked these questions, don’t worry! Your job isn’t done yet—you still have work to do! Ask them more questions until they give answers that give insight into who they are as people and what makes them unique individuals (i.e., things like favorite colors). Once this happens, take note of what comes up again when talking about interests/hobbies: maybe there’s one thing that keeps popping up every time; maybe there are multiple things; but whatever happens next will tell us just how much research we’ll need going forward…

Give them a comfortable space to retreat to when they feel overwhelmed by social activity or sensory overload.

It is important to provide a space for your child with ASD where they can retreat when they feel overwhelmed by social activity, sensory overload or stress. These spaces may be small, like a bedroom or bathroom, or larger such as an entire room in your house that you can reserve for them. If you have one of these safe spaces already set up and your child has access it, then there’s no need to worry about creating one at this point.

If not, there are some things you can do to make sure the space will work best for them:

  • Try to find somewhere that is quiet and away from distractions like TVs or windows (if possible).
  • Give them plenty of time each day to use the space however they want — whether it’s reading books alone with headphones on or playing video games without asking anyone else what they think about it first! It’s important that these areas become routine so kids know what’s expected when going there (and sometimes maybe even before).

Banish the word “perfect” from your vocabulary.

“Perfection” doesn’t exist. It’s a myth, just like Santa or the Easter Bunny. The sooner you accept this fact, the better your life will be—and not just because it means you won’t have to spend all your free time searching for a unicorn in hopes of impressing your boss at work with its horn. Perfectionism is also linked to anxiety and depression, not something anyone needs in their lives (or around their children). So when it comes to raising an autistic child, let go of this impossible standard in favor of something more realistic: praise them for their strengths and don’t focus on what they lack.

Parents can help kids on the spectrum learn how to relate better and enjoy life with these tips.

As a parent, you can help your autistic child learn how to relate better and enjoy life in many ways. The best way to do that is by being a good role model yourself. If they see that you are kind, loving and supportive of others, they will be able to do the same thing when it comes time for them to grow up and become part of society.

If you find yourself struggling with something or just unsure about what needs to be done next, don’t hesitate to ask your child if there’s anything that he or she would like for you to try out together. You might find out that there’s more than one way for things like this! You can also learn a lot from an autistic person who is willing or able enough share information with us on what works best – things we may not have thought about otherwise without their input.”


Remember that the most important thing to remember is the autistic child is an individual, and they are not defined by their diagnosis. They deserve the same respect, love and care as any other child.